How Your Greatest Insecurities Reveal Your Deepest Gifts

Your Core Gifts:The Powerful, Unexpected Path To Love

By Ken Page, LCSW in Finding Love

In my decades of practice as a psychotherapist, this is the insight that has inspired me most:

Our deepest wounds surround our greatest gifts.

I’ve found that the very qualities we’re most ashamed of, the ones we keep trying to reshape or hide, are in fact the key to finding real love. I call them core gifts.

It’s so easy to get lost in the quest for self-improvement. Every billboard seduces us with the vision of a happier, more successful life. I’m suggesting an opposite road to happiness. If we can name our own awkward, ardent gifts, and extricate them from the shame and wounds that keep them buried, we’ll find ourselves on a bullet train to deep, surprising, life-changing intimacy.

Over the years, I realized that the characteristics of my clients which I found most inspiring, most essentially them, were the ones which frequently caused them the most suffering.  Some clients would complain of feeling like they were “too much”; too intense, too angry, or too demanding. From my therapist’s chair, I would see a passion so powerful that it frightened people away.

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About griotcircle

GRIOT Circle is an intergenerational and culturally diverse community-based social service organization responsive to the realities of older lesbians, gay men, bisexuals, two-spirit and transgender people (LGBTST) of all colors. The Brooklyn-based non-profit was founded in 1996 by Regina Shavers to promote healthy living and sustainability, and support the unique social services needs of the LGBTST elders community in New York.

Posted on September 28, 2011, in Healthy + Happy, Mental Health, Retired & Living, Self-improvement and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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